I’m a person who likes change. Positive change. Matter of fact, I have dedicated my life to change. Change in organizations though consulting and coaching; change in individuals lives counseling; and change in my own life through prayer, application of scripture, and meditation.
However, I have learned through the years that change costs something. At times this feels like stress or maybe excitement but nonetheless there is an emotional and at times physical cost to change.
A number of weeks ago I was contemplating a significant change with my wife and she said to me: “I just don’t know if I have that in me at this moment.” I too shared that feeling and over the past week came across a famous study that measured the impact of major change in our lives.
In this study various events are given a measure or LCU (Life Change Unit). Here are a few examples: Death of a spouse 100, Divorce 73, Being fired 47, trouble with boss 23. In addition, many events that we consider positive also demand adjustments and require LCU’s as well: Marriage 50, Retirement 45, Outstanding personal achievement 28, Change in residence 20. For more information search: Life Change Units.
Here are a couple of thoughts when it comes to change:
- Make emotional space for change. This will take up more creative space and will be a distraction in your life! Find things that will replenish your soul and them often!
- Be honest with yourself when you are making changes. Be aware of what is going on in your heart and soul.
- Don’t navigate change alone. Share your heart with a friend that you trust. Seek the perspective of someone outside the situation.
- Be careful when you bundle change: At times one change will lead to another, and another, and another. These seasons can take a toll on your heart. You only have so many LCUs! Use them wisely and manage the pace of change.
- Pray. God is the only constant in a world of change. This might be exactly where God wants you! Lean into a relationship with Him and listen. He will be your rock.
Life is always moving. Enjoy the ride and may the Lord be with you.
Went through a big life change 11 years ago when I left college coaching and moved on to being an NFL scout. Unexpected change. Had to move, Extended time away from home. A path I did not think I would ever be going down. But God is good and the change was made much easier knowing and trusting that God had a plan.
Love your post. Check out my son’s blog Primility. You will like his thoughts. You both have such a positive outlook on life.
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